Thinking Wisely: Releasing The Inner Champion
My last two posts, I have looked at very dysfunctional voices in our heads and how easy it is to follow them. They offer quick-fix solutions that have no substance at all...
Identify The Rebel And The Critic And Release The Champion
When I sometimes take the time to analyse my patients at any given point, there are always many codependents among them. This might be because I have had my own issues with this and like to work with them or it might just be an indication of the size of the issue...
Therapy For Codependency: Get Help From Your Internal Family
When I sometimes take the time to analyse my patients at any given point, there are always many codependents among them. This might be because I have had my own issues with this and like to work with them...
6 Ways To Get Over A Bad Break Up 4 to 6
Continuing my post on moving on from a bad breakup, let's look at steps 4 to 6...
6 Ways To Get Over A Bad Break Up… 1 to 3
Anyone who has been through a break-up will testify to the feelings that surround it. Let’s face it, no-one likes being left and in reality, also ending a relationship is not easy. Invariably,...
Communication: Direct Accusation vs Problem Identification
When problems arise in a relationship, couples are often told they need to “communicate” – or talk to each other. If a couple is in crisis, my feeling is that they need to talk more and not less...
Perfectionism Is Truly Driven By Self Defeating Thoughts
Samuel McChord Crothers once wrote "try as hard as we may for perfection, the net result of our labours is an amazing variety of imperfectness. We are surprised at our own versatility in being able to fail in so many different ways". Do you feel like what you accomplish is never quite good enough?...
Self-Esteem In Perspective
Self-esteem is in essence a measurement and runs on a continuum. We rate ourselves against a variety of criteria to come up with a value of our worth. The big problem is that we often rate ourselves against...
Have a Strategy For Online Dating
Online dating has been the preferred method of finding a partner for many people for many years. A lot of people have had success and many will testify to the effectiveness and ease of using this method...
Podcast: Framework For Conflict Resolution in Relationships
We can safely say that the inability to resolve conflict effectively is one of the main reasons for marriage or relationship breakdown. In this podcast, Dr. Nicholas Jenner introduces a framework which, in his experience...