CBT: How Perfectionism Can Lead To Depression

Perfectionism can mean many things to many people. It can be seen as striving for excellence. It can mean a controlling attitude but more often it means holding on to unattainable standards that demand unyielding compliance from self, others and situations...

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Those “Aha” Moments Don’t Happen Without Chemistry

As a therapist, I am always happy when one of my clients has a "aha" moment. This is that very moment when everything comes together and you just know, it is going to initiate some form of positive change in the client's disposition...

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The Narcissist-Codependent Dance

Among my patient group (and circle of friends), there are people who continually allow others to take advantage of them, continue to give and stay in very toxic relationships. They attempt to make themselves indispensable for their partners (and everyone else) and become the local and family martyr...

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Podcast: Codependency No More

This session includes a discussion with distinguished guest, Dr. Nicholas Jenner, a counseling psychologist who offers online therapy on a global basis. Dr. Jenner has an impressive resume, but more importantly a sincere passion for helping people...

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Why Parents Must Let Go

The messages we get from our parents as we grow up determine the way we see the world as an adult. If all things go well, we grow up to be independent with a secure attachment to the family base. However, when dysfunction happens, we become locked in a cycle of codependency...

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Taking therapy Online: What are the challenges?

I was recently asked by someone to contribute to their thesis. She wrote to me a year after our first contact to suggest that the work that we did together then had been so successful for her that she wanted to make online therapy her subject...

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The Role Of A Father

As I work longer with clients, it is clear that the parenting style that they were subjected to as a child is extremely important in determining how they see the world. This conditioning is often taken into adulthood and causes dysfunction in relationships and in life generally...

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