Cheating: What People Really Think

ust recently, infidelity in marriages has been a big topic with some of my clients. It has happened and they are struggling with the aftermath of it. Some have separated, some have separated to try to see if there can be a basis for renewal of the relationship...

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Partner Doesn’t Accept Your Boundaries… Get Out!

People like me are always trying to make others see the value of setting healthy boundaries in the spirit of emotional honesty. That is expressing what you feel honestly and assertively when there is a feeling that a boundary needs to be set...

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Smack your child? You are an Abuser

do you smack your children? If so, you could soon be punished by law if lobbyists in EU have their way. Let me pitch in. There is no excuse in this world that can justify assaulting a child in the name of discipline!...

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How CBT can help with Maladaptive Thinking

I can't quite remember where I heard it first but it has fascinated me for a long time. The quote went " You know you are getting old when you look in the mirror one day and find your parent looking at you". As time marches on...

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The Narcissist-Codependent Dance

Among my patient group (and circle of friends), there are people who continually allow others to take advantage of them, continue to give and stay in very toxic relationships. They attempt to make themselves indispensable for their partners (and everyone else) and become the local and family martyr...

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Why Parents Must Let Go

The messages we get from our parents as we grow up determine the way we see the world as an adult. If all things go well, we grow up to be independent with a secure attachment to the family base. However, when dysfunction happens, we become locked in a cycle of codependency...

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Taking therapy Online: What are the challenges?

I was recently asked by someone to contribute to their thesis. She wrote to me a year after our first contact to suggest that the work that we did together then had been so successful for her that she wanted to make online therapy her subject...

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