Cheating: What People Really Think

ust recently, infidelity in marriages has been a big topic with some of my clients. It has happened and they are struggling with the aftermath of it. Some have separated, some have separated to try to see if there can be a basis for renewal of the relationship...

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Partner Doesn’t Accept Your Boundaries… Get Out!

People like me are always trying to make others see the value of setting healthy boundaries in the spirit of emotional honesty. That is expressing what you feel honestly and assertively when there is a feeling that a boundary needs to be set...

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CBT: How Perfectionism Can Lead To Depression

Perfectionism can mean many things to many people. It can be seen as striving for excellence. It can mean a controlling attitude but more often it means holding on to unattainable standards that demand unyielding compliance from self, others and situations...

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The Narcissist-Codependent Dance

Among my patient group (and circle of friends), there are people who continually allow others to take advantage of them, continue to give and stay in very toxic relationships. They attempt to make themselves indispensable for their partners (and everyone else) and become the local and family martyr...

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Facing Those Difficult Tasks…

We all do it. We convince ourselves that filing our tax return or planning that career move can wait until tomorrow or next week or next month. We bury our heads in the sand waiting for the right time, knowing that the right time is usually right now. We beat ourselves up because of it knowing that the only person who can change it is us...

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Child Abuse: An Unforgivable Crime

Children are suffering from a hidden epidemic of child abuse and neglect. Every year more than 3 million reports of child abuse are made in the United States alone involving more than 6 million children (a report can include multiple children)...

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The role of False Memory in Abuse Denial

When a child is sexually abused, it is done within the context of a manipulation of love and trust. For an abuser to achieve his or her goal of sexual gratification, the victim is persuaded to look on the act as "normal" interaction...

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Life Coaching and Mental Illness: A potential minefield?

I recently read an intriguing article from one of my favourite Psychology Today contributors, Dr David Ley, on the rise of Life Coaching in mental health care. As a psychologist, he balanced the arguments for and against extremely well...

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