Welcome to another episode of Dr Nicholas Jenner Podcast.
Today we are looking at the concept of codependent control. This is something that codependents find difficult to believe… that they are controlling a relationship in their own way.This often takes some time to work out as the emphasis is always on codependents being controlled. However, codependents are very controlling people. They just do it in their own way.
This is interesting. It is a very typical dynamic with people who have personality disorders, and it only goes to show that subconsciously, the way we have been conditioned by our parents, our upbringing, and the way we view and think of ourselves/ the world around us, have a direct impact on our relationship dynamics then with other people from then on. It’s like we have a certain mold, or shape and we find as we go through life, other people seem to fit that shape. Like the plug and plug socket.
Those with codependency, or personality disorders are always going to be prone to these Drama triangles forming with other people, whether that be in the home, work etc.
I think there is a large emphasis always on truing to get out of these triangles which is fair enough but as the population increase with more disordered people, I think it’s a bit like the Covid pandemic…in that we know its not going to go away, so we have to learn how to live and manage it appropriately.