Category: Codependency

Therapy Shorts 40: The Codependent’s Obsession with Understanding the Narcissist Is a Trauma Response

This week is about Trauma.

These posts, published twice per week with a short audio, provide bite-sized wisdom to help you grow and discover yourself. Join me as we investigate the small ways we can bring peace, clarity, and connection into our lives.

When the Codependent Becomes the Narcissist.

I often see this in therapy. A client proudly declares that they have gone “no contact” with everyone who has disappointed them. (At this point, it must be said that no contact with a toxic ex partner is recommended). They go forward with conviction but mostly that conviction is down to exhaustion and mistrust. It is avoidance instead of healing.

Therapy Shorts 39: When You Miss Them, Remember Who You Became Around Them

This week is about Break Ups.

Therapy Shorts 38: Is There Life After “Love”

This week is about Break Ups.

Codependency: They Won’t Like the Healthier You — and That’s the Point

Recovery from codependency is rarely the smooth, linear process that people imagine and is often portrayed in articles and websites. It is not about being endlessly stoic, calm, or becoming detached. It’s about telling the truth and not lying to yourself and others and maybe for the first time in your life.

Therapy Shorts 37: When You Finally Choose Yourself

This week is about Codependency.

Therapy Shorts 36: Who Are You When You’re Not Needed?

This week is about Codependency.

Dealing with “Stuckness”. How to Move from Awareness to Action

As humans, we are able to somewhat predict the future, not accurately, but enough to make us anxious about what is about to happen. It is often a case of “better the devil you know” than take any form of risk. This is often consolidated by the grey matter between our ears, often described as the “inner dictator”, that processes all our fearful thoughts into a protective, cautious stance.

Therapy Shorts 35: Change Doesn’t Need to Be Difficult

This week is about Change.

Feeling Down? : Head Out On The Trail

We cannot go on reliving the trauma of our childhood in our adult world. Nobody needs rescuing generally and it is wrong to feel you need rescuing by others. It is all about awareness and responsibility…seeking awareness and taking responsibility. I see the next hike coming!