
Therapy Shorts 97: Why You Obsess About Your Partner’s Past.
We all have a past. When two people come together and try to form a relationship, the experiences gained by both play a role. How much of a role depends greatly on the people concerned…

We all have a past. When two people come together and try to form a relationship, the experiences gained by both play a role. How much of a role depends greatly on the people concerned…

We convince ourselves that we are fine. We keep busy, distract ourselves, and on we go. Yet deep down, we know we are stuck, and all the escape in the world won’t change that. We are stuck in patterns, habits and stories we tell ourselves.

The headline is perhaps a confusing one to anyone who has experienced trauma and abuse in their life. The helping professions are full of practitioners who deal in the art of forgiveness…

This article challenges the habit of labelling every difficult ex as a narcissist and explores whether the deeper issue may be an attachment to chaos. It examines codependency, emotional intensity, nervous system familiarity, and the tendency to mistake instability for connection, chemistry, or meaningful love in adult relationships.

How many times have you heard someone say “I can’t change”? If you are like me, you have heard it many times. In most cases, what is really being said is “I won’t change”…

Change is never easy but we face it every day. For some it is a terrifying experience, for others an opportunity. We all, see it, feel it and deal with in in different ways. How we see it, feel it and deal with it will generally determine how difficult it will be…

Why do some men turn to porn instead of leaving unhappy relationships? This article explains how codependency can drive secrecy, avoidance, and nervous-system coping, while narcissistic traits are more linked to entitlement and control. Learn how to spot the difference and use a reflection exercise to gain clarity.

Codependents often experience conflict as danger, not disagreement. This article explains how the nervous system drives appeasement, avoidance, over-explaining, panic repair and shutdown, and why these strategies create resentment and blurred boundaries. It offers practical, plain-English steps for steadier conflict: clarity, pacing, tolerance and repair.

Break codependency by taking recovery into real life. Learn how group therapy builds healthier relationship skills, boundaries, and nervous system safety—and how to transfer these gains into everyday community, friendships, and support networks without over-giving, rescuing, or people-pleasing. Practical, clinical guidance for lasting change.

Explore how early relationships shape our reactions to modern life, and learn ways to navigate anxiety with awareness and new strategies.
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