Become A Compassionate Witness To Your Past

As part of the 7 Day Challenge, I wrote about polarised thinking and how the battle for control of the various "parts" of our personality can lead us to such extremes as being stuck, procrastination, people pleasing and addiction...

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Annihilation of the Self: The Role Of Relational Trauma In Shame

Chronic or toxic shame is something that we all have to deal with but do our best to hide. It is the part of us that we want to keep dark. Bringing it into the light means looking at the very core of who we really think we are. I say "think we are" because it is not really what we are...

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The Formation Of An Inner Critic

Life sometimes tells us that we are not deserving. We go through long periods of believing that there is something inherently wrong with us. One of the major factors in this process...

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Nurture Your Inner Critic

There are a range of books that tell us how to deal with our family of inner critics. Most centre on mantras and progressively aggressive language to deal with them...

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What Is The Inner Child?

I do a lot of inner child work with very interesting results. Touching the part of our emotional memory that has been locked away for years, can be a powerful, enlightening experience...

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