Be Aware Of That Fork In The Road!
Our mind is a great thing and we can often feel it controls us with its thoughts and meanderings. We often comment on how things came up “out of the blue” and we don’t know where that thought came from...
Don’t Allow Your Inner Dictator To Affect Your Paradigm
I am writing this post while on holiday and trying to keep away from my business to-do’s. So far, it has been successful I have combined hiking with trips with my wife...
Codependency: Using The Right Tools To Heal
Codependency is a thinking and behavioral problem. Codependents buy into the idea, promoted by acquired shame, that they are unlovable,...
Reflections On The Inner Child In Group Therapy
In the latest group therapy session, we investigated the Inner Child through meditation and visualisation. This is not a new exercise but it went a little deeper than normal and went on a little longer...
Connect With Yourself By Talking With Your Internal Family: A Real-life Depiction
I truly believe that the way we think about ourselves and the world we live in greatly determines the way we behave and act. We get that conditioning in childhood, good or not so good, and it is added to by gained experience over a period of time...
Become A Compassionate Witness To Your Past
As part of the 7 Day Challenge, I wrote about polarised thinking and how the battle for control of the various "parts" of our personality can lead us to such extremes as being stuck, procrastination, people pleasing and addiction...
Annihilation of the Self: The Role Of Relational Trauma In Shame
Chronic or toxic shame is something that we all have to deal with but do our best to hide. It is the part of us that we want to keep dark. Bringing it into the light means looking at the very core of who we really think we are. I say "think we are" because it is not really what we are...
Toxic Shame: How Children Cover Up Toxic Shame With Primary Ego Defences.
For a child who grows up in a dysfunctional environment where shame and possible abandonment issues are present, the feelings that are associated with this are worse than death...
What Our Inner Voices Tell Us… The Bad News Is… We Believe Them!
When we allow our thinking patterns to "protect" us , we often feel there is no escape, no matter how hard we try. These thinking traps are exactly that, thinking and behaviour that are ingrained and seemingly impossible to shift...
Dealing With Shame Means Bringing It Into The Open
We all carry shame from our childhood and it's not the easiest thing to face. As we acquire it early in our life through interaction with parents and the environment around us...
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