PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS – The Online Therapist

Ten Dynamic Actions You Can Take Right Now to Improve Your Life

These guidelines will help you live a more meaningful and purposeful life by cultivating attitudes of gratitude and mindfulness, expanding your network, and achieving your goals.

The Simple Solutions Are Often The Most Difficult

Our mind is a great thing and we can often feel it controls us with its thoughts and meanderings. We often comment on how things came up “out of the blue” and we don’t know where that thought came from.

Getting Away From The Apps and Meeting People in “Real Life”

That's the problem with dating apps: you see some great photos and pretend to yourself that they can genuinely have a conversation that isn't about them. If this profile had approached this lady in the typical manner, weeks of texting would not have been wasted. There would have been a quick dialogue and then it would have been over. I see this every day in practice, frustration at meeting the next "loser" and the feeling that it will never work.

Don’t Allow Your Inner Dictator To Affect Your Paradigm

I am writing this post while on holiday and trying to keep away from my business to-do’s. So far, it has been successful I have combined hiking with trips with my wife...

Reflections on Group Therapy And The Need For Psychological Flexibility

I often ask myself that why it is that anxiety and depression are so common in a modern world where we should theoretically, be more content than we are...

Failure Is Not The End: Learning And Moving On When Things Don’t Go To Plan

Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing...

Increase Your Self Worth, Step 5: Self Assertiveness, Honesty And Purpose

Once you have done the hard work to bring in self awareness, self acceptance, self discipline and self responsibility into your life, the next issue is how do we maintain that? How do we create a framework that will move us consistently...

Increasing Self Worth, Step 4: Self Discipline And Self Responsibility

Many people come to an awareness of what they need to do to improve their self esteem. This can be a short process or one that takes a frustratingly long time...

Increasing Your Self Worth, Step 1: Understand How The Mind Works

Starting today and for the next four days, I look at the subject of self-esteem and how it impacts our lives. Self-esteem issues came to the fore in the sixties as part of the counterculture movement...

The Role Of Rumination And Why We Do It More In Tough Times

Remember the first lockdown in March? We were all advised to find a way to get through the locked up months ahead. Projects in the home, learning new skills, learning to meditate and many other things that we were encouraged to do didn't appear to last that long as lockdown...