I have been dealing with codependency for about 15 years and the amount of awareness about the condition has massively increased in that time. I would go as far as to say that if you grew up in a dysfunctional household as a child, there is a huge chance of codependency being a part of your life.
Karpman’s Drama Triangle describes dysfunctional relationships where the people in the relationship shift between three roles, Persecutor, Rescuer, and Victim, all held in place by guilt and blame.
In relationships, the little things are the big things. The most important ingredient we put into any relationship is not what we say or what we do, but what we are.
Codependency is not about others it is about YOU, yes you, taking responsibility for aspects of your behavior that leave you exposed to being taken advantage of.
We cannot go on reliving the trauma of our childhood in our adult world. Nobody needs rescuing generally and it is wrong to feel you need rescuing by others. It is all about awareness and responsibility...seeking awareness and taking responsibility. I see the next hike coming!
I have been successfully treating codependents for many years on an individual basis, changing people’s lives using effective integrative methods that I am continually developing. I realise the importance of learning tools and methods in order to enjoy a fuller life and better relationships...
I have always said that codependency recovery is about management and not cure. Being a behavioural issue means that setbacks can easily happen. There is no linear line available from A to Z. One has to constantly manage symptoms on a daily basis and take one day at a time and always challenge yourself to do the right thing. Doing the right thing means taking responsibility and leadership.
In my everyday work with codependents, who do not need to be tested, I see a variety of different "types" of codependency, to the point that we may assert that not all codependency is the same. Through my work, I've observed how these personalities affect behaviour and the relationships in which they find themselves.
At this time of year, I like to reflect on what people have been reading on the site. Codependency and codependent relationships were once again prominent topics. Interestingly, unlike previous years, the most popular piece was one on how two codependents interact with each other in a relationship. Take a look at the three most popular articles of 2021, which have been reposted here for you to read again...
Anger transcends feelings. Indeed, your body goes into overdrive when it detects a danger. It begins by releasing adrenaline, the “fight or flight” hormone. Your heart rate accelerates and your blood pressure rises in response...
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