Codependency Is Not A Love Addiction
Codependents are not escaping or addicts of some sort. They are using relationships to function and bring stability in the only way they know.
Codependents are not escaping or addicts of some sort. They are using relationships to function and bring stability in the only way they know.
Mistakes, luckily for me, have always brought with them a chance to learn something about myself and the way I operate.
Anyone who has codependent traits need to test their motives continually as to why they are doing what they do. Many don’t and continue to live with the idea that they are being slighted and victimized.
Group therapy is often defined by stereotypes taken from television programmes, especially in the US, depicting recovering alcoholics starting the process by stating “My name is… I am an alcoholic”.
It may seem a tall order with all that avoidance going on but try it, it cant be worse than the alternative.
I have been dealing with codependency for about 15 years and the amount of awareness about the condition has massively increased in that time. I would go as far as to say that if you grew up in a dysfunctional household as a child, there is a huge chance of codependency being a part of your life.
Karpman’s Drama Triangle describes dysfunctional relationships where the people in the relationship shift between three roles, Persecutor, Rescuer, and Victim, all held in place by guilt and blame.
In relationships, the little things are the big things. The most important ingredient we put into any relationship is not what we say or what we do, but what we are.
Codependency is not about others it is about YOU, yes you, taking responsibility for aspects of your behavior that leave you exposed to being taken advantage of.
We cannot go on reliving the trauma of our childhood in our adult world. Nobody needs rescuing generally and it is wrong to feel you need rescuing by others. It is all about awareness and responsibility...seeking awareness and taking responsibility. I see the next hike coming!