Codependents: It’s Ok Not To Forgive Your Toxic Parents
The headline is perhaps a confusing one to anyone who has experienced trauma and abuse in their life. The helping professions are full of practitioners who deal in the art of forgiveness...
Watch The Narcissist Who Flies Under The Radar
The typical image of a narcissist is one who sucks the air out of a room. He or she is the centre of attention and demands centre stage...
Conflict: Problem Solving Rather Than Accusation
When problems arise in a relationship, couples are often told they need to “communicate” – or talk to each other. If a couple is in crisis, my feeling is...
Emotional Honesty: What It Is And Why It Is Important
Most people are emotionally dishonest for various reasons. A bold statement, maybe but in my experience it is a true statement. Look at this quote...
Helping Your Child Through Your Divorce
The period following a formal separation involves many life changes and decisions - and all of them have an impact on younger and older children...
Why Are You Obsessing About Your Partner’s Past?
We all have a past. When two people come together and try to form a relationship, the experiences gained by both play a role. How much of a role depends greatly on the people concerned...
Relationships Are All About Balance Of Power… And We Fight To Keep It
It is of very little consequence how good you feel your relationship is, there is a dynamic that defines the interaction and what you do. It doesn't matter if it is a friendship...
Once Gone, Never Let Your Narcissist Ex-Partner Return (But Your Child Is A Complication)
It takes a lot to remove a narcissist from your life. Not only the fact that he is not all that willing for you to make that call but also the actions and thoughts of the people involved with them often make it difficult...
Are You Truly Listening To Your Partner? Bringing Respect Back To Your Relationship
As a therapist, I do a lot of couples therapy. That means I deal frequently with warring, dysfunctional relationships in most cases. Most people enter couples therapy as a last resort to save their marriage or relationship...
Codependents And Infidelity: It Doesn’t Always Pan Out How You Might Expect
One confession that I make with some trepidation is that I was an avid watcher of the reality tv show "Cheaters", in the 90's. Joey Greco who was the host of the show built the cases up well and it made for interesting viewing...