Codependents often experience conflict as danger, not disagreement. This article explains how the nervous system drives appeasement, avoidance, over-explaining, panic repair and shutdown, and why these strategies create resentment and blurred boundaries. It offers practical, plain-English steps for steadier conflict: clarity, pacing, tolerance and repair.
Codependency often turns urgency into “chemistry.” This article explains how the nervous system confuses inconsistency with attraction, why reassurance-seeking becomes compulsive, and how to slow the loop with practical delay rules, body regulation, and behaviour-based assessment so connection feels safe, steady, and real.
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Welcome to Therapy Shorts: small moments of reflection to help you steady yourself in a world that never stops moving. I’m Dr Nicholas Jenner, and in each of these brief episodes, we’ll take a simple idea and look at how it actually plays out in real life… in your relationships, your choices, and the way you speak to yourself.
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