Shame is an emotion that affects everything we do and identifying and dealing with it is very difficult at times, even if we recognize our issues as shame based. Most people will attempt to hide their shame with secondary emotions like anger or sadness...
There are many good people in this world trying to parent their children the best they possibly can. The trouble is, their best is generally not enough and the consequences are felt by the child as it develops...
People like me are always trying to make others see the value of setting healthy boundaries in the spirit of emotional honesty. That is expressing what you feel honestly and assertively when there is a feeling that a boundary needs to be set...
Shame is a big topic because it means so much to all of us. We all carry it and it is the major factor in how we see ourselves, the world and relationships. We do our best to hide it and we cover it up with other emotions and feelings...
We are all hurting, probably more than most people can remember. 2020 has been for many people "annus horribilis“. Pandemics, elections, lockdowns and the general feeling of insecurity...
Can you imagine a therapist telling a patient to think negatively ? To concentrate on the less positive aspects of the issues they are having ?...
Many codependents that I deal with have real issues with shame that was acquired in childhood. Initially, this starts with adaptive protection measures...
We can all remember events in our childhood where we felt shame and those memories linger. You can see children being shamed every day on the streets of any town or city...
If we are honest with ourselves, we spend a lot of time in ‘child’ mode, re-enacting aspects of our development. Whether it’s in conflict with another or when we are ruminating or listening to our own self-talk, our younger selves often come through, consolidating our early beliefs...
Many of the issues we have in adulthood have a firm base in developmental trauma and how we develop as children has a huge bearing on how we see the world as adults...
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