child maltreatment Archives

Therapy Shorts 85: Those Who Say Can’t Usually Mean Won’t

How many times have you heard someone say “I can’t change”? If you are like me, you have heard it many times. In most cases, what is really being said is “I won’t change”…

How to Accept and Overcome Failure Effectively

Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing...

Depression and Burnout In The Workplace: Is Your Employer Stepping Up To The Plate And Are You Seeing The Signs?

Sometimes, I am asked by corporate clients to help new managers with the challenges of their new job. Usually, just the basic management tasks can be overwhelming without the added problem of dealing with people and especially ‘difficult’ people...

What Stops Us Finding Our Path And Purpose?

Fear is with us all the time. Anyone who hates flying will tell what what it is like to board a plane. The same feeling surfaces if we stand on a tall building with a fear of heights, when we have to take a test or face a difficult situation...

Views On Infidelity In Perspective

Just recently, infidelity in marriages has been a big topic with some of my clients. It has happened and they are struggling with the aftermath of it. Some have separated, some have separated to try to see if there can be a basis for renewal of the relationship...

Child Abuse: A Reminder

Children are suffering from a hidden epidemic of child abuse and neglect. Every year more than 3 million reports of child abuse are made in the United States alone involving more than 6 million children (a report can include multiple children). The United States has one of the worst records among industrialized nations – losing on average between four and seven children every day to child abuse and neglect.

Adult Issues We Should Not Be Talking To Our Children About

Our children and the way they grow up is usually precious to us and mostly as parents, we try to do the right thing...

When Procrastination Causes Depression And What To Do About It

Many people in the world are getting used to a new post-lockdown world which is not quite the same as it was before. Restrictions and the threat of infection, isolation and financial and personal loss...

Beat Procrastination And Time-wasting

I have read the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People many times and taught others its principles. As Covey rightly said "you need to learn to teach and teach to learn". The first three habits are extremely effective for anyone looking to add structure to their lives in a way that gets them out "the rut"...

Boundaries Build Bridges… Don’t Be Afraid To Set Them

People like me are always trying to make others see the value of setting healthy boundaries in the spirit of emotional honesty. That is expressing what you feel honestly and assertively when there is a feeling that a boundary needs to be set...