Codependent relationships Archives - Page 36 of 36

6 Ways To Get Over A Bad Break Up… 1 to 3

Anyone who has been through a break-up will testify to the feelings that surround it. Let’s face it, no-one likes being left and in reality, also ending a relationship is not easy. Invariably,...

Communication: Direct Accusation vs Problem Identification

When problems arise in a relationship, couples are often told they need to “communicate” – or talk to each other. If a couple is in crisis, my feeling is that they need to talk more and not less...

Perfectionism Is Truly Driven By Self Defeating Thoughts

Samuel McChord Crothers once wrote "try as hard as we may for perfection, the net result of our labours is an amazing variety of imperfectness. We are surprised at our own versatility in being able to fail in so many different ways". Do you feel like what you accomplish is never quite good enough?...

Self-Esteem In Perspective

Self-esteem is in essence a measurement and runs on a continuum. We rate ourselves against a variety of criteria to come up with a value of our worth. The big problem is that we often rate ourselves against...

Have a Strategy For Online Dating

Online dating has been the preferred method of finding a partner for many people for many years. A lot of people have had success and many will testify to the effectiveness and ease of using this method...

Partner Doesn’t Accept Your Boundaries… Get Out!

People like me are always trying to make others see the value of setting healthy boundaries in the spirit of emotional honesty. That is expressing what you feel honestly and assertively when there is a feeling that a boundary needs to be set...

Those Who Say Can’t Usually Mean Won’t

How many times have you heard someone say “I can’t change”? If you are like me, you have heard it many times. In most cases, what is really being said is “I won’t change”…

The Narcissist-Codependent Dance

Among my patient group (and circle of friends), there are people who continually allow others to take advantage of them, continue to give and stay in very toxic relationships. They attempt to make themselves indispensable for their partners (and everyone else) and become the local and family martyr...