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Therapy Shorts 85: Those Who Say Can’t Usually Mean Won’t

How many times have you heard someone say “I can’t change”? If you are like me, you have heard it many times. In most cases, what is really being said is “I won’t change”…

Therapy Shorts 39: When You Miss Them, Remember Who You Became Around Them

This week is about Break Ups. These posts, published twice per week with a short audio, provide bite-sized wisdom to help you grow and discover yourself. Join me as we investigate the small ways we can bring peace, clarity, and connection into our lives.

Therapy Shorts 10: Navigating the Post-Breakup Journey: Key Insights 1 to 3

Discover "Therapy Shorts," a collection of quick insights and gentle nudges to help you along your healing journey. This week is about Break-Ups. These posts, published twice per week with a short audio, provide bite-sized wisdom to help you grow and discover yourself. Join me as we investigate the small ways we can bring peace, clarity, and connection into our lives.

How to Accept and Overcome Failure Effectively

Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing...

Should your partner or spouse be part of your individual therapy and how?

The decision to include a partner in therapy should be made with careful consideration of these factors. The therapist must weigh the benefits of gaining a fuller understanding of the client's relational context against the potential for increased conflict, privacy concerns, and dependency issues.

Codependency: Why Red Flags Give Us All The Information We Need

In my daily work with codependents, I hear a lot about so-called "red-flags". Usually this comes when clients are describing the early stages of a relationship they were or are in...

How to Avoid the End Becoming a Nightmare

At the end of a relationship, a volatile mix is created when the complexities of human emotions, psychological factors, and social pressures all converge to create a situation that is highly charged.

Having Trouble and Considering a Break?

Taking a pause facilitates more profound and sincere discussions regarding emotions, requirements, and anticipations, thereby promoting enhanced comprehension and empathy.

How To Deal with a Messy Breakup

Here are some steps to help you navigate through this difficult time and eventually move on.

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When Is It Really Time To Go?

The idea of separating from your partner is, for many people an emotional choice. Logic very rarely plays a role, even sometimes in the face of infidelity or abuse. Much of this could be that many people are addicted to the early phases of a relationship (a neurological and biological process that changes the brain’s chemistry) and are forever hopeful that that person will return...