Therapy Shorts 75: Why Codependents Choose Narcissists and Convince Themselves It’s Love

Codependents often bond with potential rather than reality, staying invested in who someone could become. This article explains how early roles and nervous system activation keep hope alive, why occasional improvement is not stability, and how to separate compassion from commitment. It includes practical checks to choose based on consistent behaviour.

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Therapy Shorts 74: Living With a Codependent: Why It Can Feel Suffocating and What Actually Helps

Living with a codependent partner can feel suffocating: your mood is monitored, independence triggers anxiety, and reassurance becomes a demand. This article explains the nervous system roots of codependency, the “invisible contract” of overgiving, and practical ways to respond with clear boundaries, calm consistency, and shared responsibility.

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Therapy Shorts 72: Stop Calling It Chemistry: When “Urgent” Is Just Your Nervous System

Codependency often turns urgency into “chemistry.” This article explains how the nervous system confuses inconsistency with attraction, why reassurance-seeking becomes compulsive, and how to slow the loop with practical delay rules, body regulation, and behaviour-based assessment so connection feels safe, steady, and real.

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