Parenting is crucial in a child's development and while it is not the only factor in the acquisition of anxiety and depression, good parenting can make a big difference.
In therapy, and especially with codependents, much time is spent trying to discover things. This includes why we act like we do, think like we do and we fall in love with the people we do...
What is it to be a good father? Much emphasis is placed on the bond a child has with its mother and the role of the father is often pushed into the background. Important as it is that the interpersonal bond with the mother is established...
Shame is an emotion that affects everything we do and identifying and dealing with it is very difficult at times, even if we recognize our issues as shame based. Most people will attempt to hide their shame with secondary emotions like anger or sadness...
There are many good people in this world trying to parent their children the best they possibly can. The trouble is, their best is generally not enough and the consequences are felt by the child as it develops...
Shame is a big topic because it means so much to all of us. We all carry it and it is the major factor in how we see ourselves, the world and relationships. We do our best to hide it and we cover it up with other emotions and feelings...
Shame is the driver of many of the issues we face in our lives. Even experienced therapists do not always see the impact that shame based thinking can have on the Self...
If we are honest with ourselves, we spend a lot of time in ‘child’ mode, re-enacting aspects of our development. Whether it’s in conflict with another or when we are ruminating or listening to our own self-talk, our younger selves often come through, consolidating our early beliefs...
Many of the issues we have in adulthood have a firm base in developmental trauma and how we develop as children has a huge bearing on how we see the world as adults...
Many of my recent posts have delved into some of the root causes of codependency and how developmental trauma plays a major role. This puts parenting (or the lack of…
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