troubled families Archives

Therapy Shorts 85: Those Who Say Can’t Usually Mean Won’t

How many times have you heard someone say “I can’t change”? If you are like me, you have heard it many times. In most cases, what is really being said is “I won’t change”…

Depression and Burnout In The Workplace: Is Your Employer Stepping Up To The Plate And Are You Seeing The Signs?

Sometimes, I am asked by corporate clients to help new managers with the challenges of their new job. Usually, just the basic management tasks can be overwhelming without the added problem of dealing with people and especially ‘difficult’ people...

What Stops Us Finding Our Path And Purpose?

Fear is with us all the time. Anyone who hates flying will tell what what it is like to board a plane. The same feeling surfaces if we stand on a tall building with a fear of heights, when we have to take a test or face a difficult situation...

Views On Infidelity In Perspective

Just recently, infidelity in marriages has been a big topic with some of my clients. It has happened and they are struggling with the aftermath of it. Some have separated, some have separated to try to see if there can be a basis for renewal of the relationship...

Children Are Often The Collateral In Separation

Divorce is an ugly business. Anyone who has been through it will testify to the emotional turmoil associated with it. Even the one who instigated the proceedings can be very badly affected by the process...

Beat Procrastination And Time-wasting

I have read the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People many times and taught others its principles. As Covey rightly said "you need to learn to teach and teach to learn". The first three habits are extremely effective for anyone looking to add structure to their lives in a way that gets them out "the rut"...

Boundaries Build Bridges… Don’t Be Afraid To Set Them

People like me are always trying to make others see the value of setting healthy boundaries in the spirit of emotional honesty. That is expressing what you feel honestly and assertively when there is a feeling that a boundary needs to be set...

Progress In Therapy Depends On The Relationship But There Must Be Limits

As a therapist, I am always happy when one of my clients has a "aha" moment. This is that very moment when everything comes together and you just know, it is going to initiate some form of positive change in the client's disposition...

The 7 Day Challenge Day 7: Take Action And Take It Now!

We are at the pinnacle of the 7 Day Challenge, the last day. We have slowly worked through various topics and have finally reached the moment to take action to make a change.... scary, right?...

The 7 Day Challenge Day 6: Test Your Commitment

If you have been following the 7 Day Challenge, you might well now have reached the point where you have identified an issue, tested your resistance, looked at possible solutions and looked at your thinking around this and tried to beat your demons...