Dr Nicholas Jenner, Author at THE ONLINE THERAPIST

How Vulnerable Narcissists Manipulate Relationships

The emotional and mental toll of being close to a vulnerable narcissist can be substantial. Narcissists who are vulnerable do not project an air of superiority, charisma, or confidence that their more overtly narcissistic counterparts do. On the contrary, they tend to come across as timid, sensitive, nervous, or even self-deprecating. This approachable demeanour has the power to captivate those around them, particularly those with a compassionate nature, a nurturing spirit, or a deep longing to assist and heal others.

The Evolution of Love: From Honeymoon to Maturity

The final recognised stage is considered to be the “mature love” stage, where theoretically we have got to know everything we need to about our partner and have chosen them for the long term. It should be a time when there are no surprises, life is settled, the couple have gone through ups and downs, career building and children. They should, theoretically, be in tune with each other and the plans on the table. Yet, in my experience of working with couples for many years, it can be a dangerous time for a relationship.

Are You Overlooking These Narcissistic Relationship Signs?

Narcissists are very choosy. They choose their victims carefully and their choice is usually based on such things as status, wealth, influence or ability. The victims are usually attractive and popular. The more of this the victim has, the greater the value of the supply for the narcissist.

What You Didn’t Know About Codependency: Hidden Struggles

Despite so many people identifying with the symptoms, there are still some who doubt its existence or hold derogatory views against anyone claiming to be codependent. This includes virtually all of the medical profession and indeed, some therapists.

Neuroplasticity: Transforming Codependent Behaviors

Cozolino conveys a profound sense of optimism about the potential for transformation and healing through neuroplasticity.

Understanding Codependency: A Neuroscience Perspective-Drawing Insights from Louis Cozolino’s Work

Codependency isn’t a flaw—it’s a survival response wired deep in your nervous system. Based on Louis Cozolino’s neuroscience research, this post unpacks how early relationships shape your patterns—and how to finally rewire them for love that feels safe, mutual, and real. Healing is possible—and it starts within.

My Mother, Codependency and the On Demand Therapy Program

I wanted to send a clear message: That codependents aren’t sick. They don’t need pills or diagnosing. I wanted to make it very clear that recovery is very much in the hands of the codependent and that recovery starts and finishes with the codependent. Codependency is behavioural and learned from the environment we grew up in and it can be unlearnt. The only recovery from codependency is to find and maintain the individual within.

How to Avoid Attracting What’s Missing in You

Those of us who battle with self-assurance may find ourselves drawn to someone who is aggressive. Someone who is disciplined may give us solace in the event that we are lacking structure. In the beginning, these characteristics might make us feel excited and complementary. It seems as if the other person "completes" us. This usually happens in the honeymoon period.

The Concept of the Adaptive Personality and the “We-Self”. Relationships and Codependency in Focus

There is a notable shift towards more flexible, less traditional interpersonal dynamics, in which people value personal fulfillment over society standards. Today's relationships are more adaptable, digital, and self-centered, emphasizing personal development and emotional freedom above strict structures. These shifts represent a deeper shift in how individuals see love, intimacy, and commitment in the modern era.

Breaking Free from Codependency: Join My Free Live Q&A! Sunday 13th April 2025 12pm EST

Join me for a live Q&A where we’ll dive into all things codependency, relationships, and breaking free from destructive habits. Whether you're just starting to recognize unhealthy patterns or deep into your healing journey, this session is for you. Struggling with a romantic partner, family dynamics, or friendships? Bring your questions—this is your space to ask, learn, and grow.