When we allow our thinking patterns to "protect" us , we often feel there is no escape, no matter how hard we try. These thinking traps are exactly that, thinking and behaviour that are ingrained and seemingly impossible to shift...
Let's deal with changing the way you think. We have to start somewhere and realising and recognising irrational thought patterns, how and why they happen is a very healthy process. However, if we stop there and take no affirmative action, where does it really get us.
There are times in our lives when big decisions have to be made and the consequences faced, however grim they may be. How many of us can actually say we enjoy this process? Not many, I guess...
Nothing is perfect and that goes for relationships too. Even in the best of intimate relationships...
I once had a client who was involved with the most abusive, self-absorbed, self-centred, controlling man you could ever imagine. He abused her physically, emotionally, financially and verbally...
Relationship success is something that many of us strive for. Sometimes, this elusive "Holy Grail" escapes all but the very few. I have written here before about the Four Pillars of a functional relationship and how that is the basis if the relationship is to sustain itself long-term.
What is the point of therapy unless there is a clear measurable goal? A question I have often asked myself and one that I am sure many people who seek therapy ask themselves too...
A good marriage with someone we truly love is generally the fairytale that is sold to us by society, sometimes parents and definitely religion...
Samuel McChord Crothers once wrote ” try as hard as we may for perfection, the net result of our labors is an amazing variety of imperfectness...
When you recognise and become aware that you are indeed a codependent, the hard work really starts. Even codependents who have a good handle on their triggers and situations that could cause a relapse have to fight hard to keep them in check...
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