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Therapy Shorts 93: What a Healthy Relationship Looks Like: Spoiler: It’s Boring!

Healthy love is rarely dramatic. This article explores why emotionally healthy relationships can initially feel unfamiliar to people shaped by codependency, anxious attachment, or conditional love. It examines the difference between emotional intensity and genuine intimacy, and why calm, consistent relationships often feel uncomfortable before they begin to feel safe.

Why Understanding Yourself Is Not Enough

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Therapy Shorts 86: Why Guilt and Shame Keep Codependency in Place

Why does codependency recovery feel so guilty? This article explores the difference between guilt and shame, the hidden role of toxic responsibility, and why setting healthy boundaries can feel morally wrong. Learn how over-responsibility becomes identity, why resentment builds, and how real recovery begins by carrying less without caring less.

Therapy Shorts 84: Why You Keep Falling For The Wrong People

Why are codependents drawn to emotionally unavailable and inconsistent partners? This article explores how childhood conditioning, low self-worth and nervous system activation shape attraction, causing healthy love to feel unfamiliar. Learn why codependents mistake drama for connection and how recovery begins by judging behaviour, not chemistry.

Therapy Shorts 81: Codependency on The Good Men Project: Interview with Dr Nicholas Jenner

In Therapy Shorts 81, Dr Nicholas Jenner appears on The Good Men Project to discuss codependency recovery. This interview explores how codependent patterns form, why people-pleasing persists, and what healthy boundaries actually look like in real relationships. Practical insights cover self-worth, attachment, and small steps to shift from rescuing to relating.

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Group Therapy for Codependency Recovery starts again on 29 March 2026 (via Zoom), with free access to Dr Jenner’s Codependency Self-Help Programme (value $390 USD).

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How Childhood Trauma Shapes Codependency and Affects the Nervous System

Explore how early relationships shape our reactions to modern life, and learn ways to navigate anxiety with awareness and new strategies.

In-Depth Guide: Why You Love the Way You Do — The Psychology of Attachment

Understanding how childhood shapes adult relationships is key to healing attachment wounds, breaking unhealthy patterns, and building secure, fulfilling connections.

Therapy Shorts 52: Codependency Is All About Control And It Took Me Years to Come Out of Denial

Codependency often looks like kindness, but underneath it lies quiet, anxious control. In this piece, I explore how fear drives fixing, rescuing, and over-functioning and why reclaiming individuality is the true path to healing. If you’ve ever lost yourself in relationships, this will resonate deeply.

Therapy Shorts 50: People Pleasing Isn’t Kindness, It’s Control

People-pleasing isn’t a personality trait. It’s a survival strategy. It’s something you learned early, in environments where being agreeable wasn’t optional , it was necessary.