Understanding That Codependency Is About Control
The idea of control by codependents is one that is often overlooked when discussing relationships. We try to understand why people are targeted by self centered individuals...
The idea of control by codependents is one that is often overlooked when discussing relationships. We try to understand why people are targeted by self centered individuals...
These heady moments we all encounter at the start of a new relationship mean that our general caution and common sense suddenly abandon us...
In therapy, and especially with codependents, much time is spent trying to discover things. This includes why we act like we do, think like we do and we fall in love with the people we do...
We have a real problem with staying the moment and for some, it is unfamiliar territory. For some others, it is dangerous territory where reality bites. We are often told in therapy that we need to stay more mindful of what we believe about ourselves and to work on irrational thoughts...
Group therapy is often defined by stereotypes taken from television programmes, especially in the US, depicting recovering alcoholics starting the process by stating "My name is... I am an alcoholic". This is often heralded by the rest of the group as the starting point of recovery...
Break-ups can be nasty experiences and we all go through them. The best case scenario is that a couple can mutually agree to separate and logically work through that process...
Codependents gain a lot of strength from what they do for others. In fact, it is an essential process for them if they are to feel good about themselves. It is a never-ending quest for connection that unless unchecked, will lead to disappointment, rejection...
When you are trying to deal with codependency, it is essential to work with a therapist who understands what it is, how to deal with it and has overcome his/her own codependency issues...
What does it mean to be codependent? Unless you are codependent, you really cannot imagine what it is like. It is a connection problem that links us to our primary caregivers and the way we connected (or more likely, didn‘t connect) with them...
My apologies in advance for such a long, somewhat confusing headline. I hope you will get what I mean as you read further into this article...
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