Therapy Shorts 85: Those Who Say Can’t Usually Mean Won’t
How many times have you heard someone say “I can’t change”? If you are like me, you have heard it many times. In most cases, what is really being said is “I won’t change”…
Just Do It? Sometimes It Works!
We all do it. We convince ourselves that filing our tax return or planning that career move can wait until tomorrow or next week or next month. We bury our heads in the sand waiting for the right time, knowing that the right time is usually right now. We beat ourselves up because of it knowing that the only person who can change it is us...
Progress In Therapy Depends On The Relationship But There Must Be Limits
As a therapist, I am always happy when one of my clients has a "aha" moment. This is that very moment when everything comes together and you just know, it is going to initiate some form of positive change in the client's disposition...
Positive Thinking: Where It Helps… Where It Doesn’t
I have a number of clients from the US and what has been playing out there over the last few weeks and indeed, for some, over the last four years has been difficult for them. At the moment, the big contentious issue is political...
With Narcissists, Action Always Speaks Louder Than Words
When we start a new relationship, we let a few things go that we might not later. We don't always set boundaries or recognise so-called 'red flags'. The adrenaline is just running too high and that is just the way we want it...
Codependency? Control Not Love
These days we throw the words "narcissist" and "codependent" around like confetti. It is easy to label someone who appears self-centred as the former and one who gives a little bit too much as the latter.
How Childhood Abuse Can Subdue The Inner Child
When we think about child abuse, our thoughts often stop at sexual abuse of minors. However, the term child abuse...
The Mental Torment of Sexually Abused Children
It is estimated that up to fifty percent of sexual abuse victims who receive medical treatment after episodes of abuse carry no physical scars at all...
The Way We See The Problem, Often Is The Problem
I always remember the quote " Life is about the choices you make. If you want a better life, make different choices"...
Think Team Relationship in Conflict
Anyone who tells you that conflict does not happen in their relationship probably lives alone! Conflict is an inevitable consequence of two human beings coming together to attempt to form a relationship...
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