Narcissist Abuse: Being Hooked By The Illusion
As humans, we have a never-ending ability to see the good in others. We forgive, we forget, we give the benefit of the doubt...
Conditioning Can Be Changed But It Takes Hard Work And Awareness
A client who has been coming to therapy for quite some time, recently had a revelation where she finally realised that her family had conditioned her as a child to believe that she needed to behave in a certain way...
Perfectionism Is Truly Driven By Self Defeating Thoughts
Samuel McChord Crothers once wrote "try as hard as we may for perfection, the net result of our labours is an amazing variety of imperfectness. We are surprised at our own versatility in being able to fail in so many different ways". Do you feel like what you accomplish is never quite good enough?...
Those Who Say Can’t Usually Mean Won’t
How many times have you heard someone say “I can’t change”? If you are like me, you have heard it many times. In most cases, what is really being said is “I won’t change”…
Online Therapy: Moving Forward
Online therapy is relatively new and not yet fully accepted by everyone. When you browse articles on this topic, you generally find that the main issues center around privacy concerns, proposed regulation and the usual chatter from psychotherapists stuck in the Freudian era...
The Narcissist-Codependent Dance
Among my patient group (and circle of friends), there are people who continually allow others to take advantage of them, continue to give and stay in very toxic relationships. They attempt to make themselves indispensable for their partners (and everyone else) and become the local and family martyr...
Why Parents Must Let Go
The messages we get from our parents as we grow up determine the way we see the world as an adult. If all things go well, we grow up to be independent with a secure attachment to the family base. However, when dysfunction happens, we become locked in a cycle of codependency...
Facing Those Difficult Tasks…
We all do it. We convince ourselves that filing our tax return or planning that career move can wait until tomorrow or next week or next month. We bury our heads in the sand waiting for the right time, knowing that the right time is usually right now. We beat ourselves up because of it knowing that the only person who can change it is us...
Child Abuse: An Unforgivable Crime
Children are suffering from a hidden epidemic of child abuse and neglect. Every year more than 3 million reports of child abuse are made in the United States alone involving more than 6 million children (a report can include multiple children)...
Life Coaching and Mental Illness: A potential minefield?
I recently read an intriguing article from one of my favourite Psychology Today contributors, Dr David Ley, on the rise of Life Coaching in mental health care. As a psychologist, he balanced the arguments for and against extremely well...
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