Child Abuse: An Unforgivable Crime

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Children are suffering from a hidden epidemic of child abuse and neglect. Every year more than 3 million reports of child abuse are made in the United States alone involving more than 6 million children (a report can include multiple children). The United States has one of the worst records among industrialized nations – losing on average between four and seven children every day to child abuse and neglect.

1 in 10 children suffer from child maltreatment. 1 in 16 children suffer from sexual abuse.

Nearly 1 in 10 children are witnesses to family violence.

The youngest children are the most vulnerable to maltreatment. Over 25% of abused children are under the age of three while over 45% of abused children are under the age of five.

Number of children in the United States who died because of abuse or neglect in 2012: 1,593

Of the number of children who died because of abuse or neglect…

70.3% were younger than three years of age

44.4% were younger than one year of age

While boys and girls are equally as likely to be victims of abuse and neglect (in 2012, 48.5% of abused children were boys while 51.2% of abused children were girls); the rate of child fatality is higher for boys (in 2012, 57.6% of child fatalities due to abuse and neglect were boys).

More than 85% of the child fatalities in 2012 were white children. However, when comparing the number of child fatalities to the population data, Pacific Islander and African-American children had the highest rates of child fatalities (4.69 and 4.67 per 100,000 Pacific Islander and African-American children).

In over 20% of the child fatalities that occurred in 2012, the child was exposed to domestic violence in the home.

Number of reports of child abuse every year in the United States: 2.9 million

Let the following snippets from victims remind us that child abuse is the most unforgivable of crimes…….. victims live every day with the knowledge that someone has stolen their most precious gift..the future.

M’s Story

“I always wondered why Dad did the things he did to me (us), was it my fault? Did I do something to entice him?  I kept the secret until just recently.  I have terrible nightmares.  And I thought that was all it was until one day my sister said “Sorry honey that was not just a dream”.  All the dreams I had about “some man” touching and violating me when I was 6 – 8 years of age turned out to be about my own father.  He did not just violate me, he chased my older sister away from our home, he raped the two sisters that came after me, and he assaulted our five-year old nephew.  How can any one man destroy so many lives and so many innocents? “

A’s Story

“When I was 4 or 5 I remember it was just me and my mom, and I loved that. She paid attention to me and we had so much fun. Then she met her husband Doug. When I turned 6 that’s when things started to happen. He started to sexually abuse me on a regular basis. It took me years to figure out that what he was doing was wrong and unacceptable. When I was at my babysitter’s I had told her what he was doing and she called my mom and Child protective services. That did nothing though; my Mom just sent them away and told them I was over reacting and that I just wanted attention. After that I just kept my mouth shut for years because I knew she’s just going to tell me it didn’t happen and she didn’t believe me.” .

K’s Story

“Several days prior to my birthday, February 6th, I started feeling anxious again. From dealing with this in the past, I knew a memory was coming, and it was tied to a date. I couldn’t believe until the last moment that it was my birthday, he did it on my birthday… Now there was no need to wonder why I could never remember any of my birthday celebrations – they were all blocked because of THAT one”

F’s Story

” I have lived with a secret for the majority of my life. Many others are living with the same secret and they, like me, are suffering from the damage and pain it causes.”

N’s Story

” Even though I am approaching fifty, I will never forgive you for sentencing me to thirty years of trying to make sense of what you did and then denied “

Keeping a secret can be a very lonely responsibility.  As survivors of childhood sexual abuse we were taught to keep the secrets of our trauma.  Sometimes we kept the secret because we were afraid of the consequences, and sometimes we kept the secret because we thought we shared a special relationship with our abuser.  For whatever reason; quietly and in solitude we endured shame and confusion, unaware that countless other children were bearing the same burden as we were. Never be afraid to BREAK THE SILENCE…ABUSE IS NOT YOUR FAULT !!  If you are a victim of child abuse, a survivor or know someone who was or is a victim of child abuse and you need someone to talk to, please feel free to contact me*. I would be more than happy to help you get through in the same way I did. Don’t live with the silence.

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Dr. Nicholas Jenner, a therapist, coach, and speaker, has over 20 years of experience in the field of therapy and coaching. His specialty lies in treating codependency, a condition that is often characterized by a compulsive dependence on a partner, friend, or family member for emotional or psychological sustenance. Dr. Jenner's approach to treating codependency involves using Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, a treatment method that has gained widespread popularity in recent years. He identifies the underlying causes of codependent behavior by exploring his patients' internal "parts," or their different emotional states, to develop strategies to break free from it. Dr. Jenner has authored numerous works on the topic and offers online therapy services to assist individuals in developing healthy relationships and achieving emotional independence.

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This Post Has 3 Comments

  1. Thank you for sharing this. Too often it’s a family member or step- member of the family. So heartbreaking.

  2. mirrorgirl

    It is an unforgivable crime, but it becomes better for each person that cares enough to write about it, and fight for a system that helps, rather then ignoring the problem. Thank you for sharing!