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Therapy Shorts 100: How Do You Know You Have The One?

While recently browsing a national UK newspaper, I came across an article concerning a comment made by Barack Obama concerning the questions you might ask yourself about a potential partner...

Therapy Shorts 97: Why You Obsess About Your Partner’s Past.

We all have a past. When two people come together and try to form a relationship, the experiences gained by both play a role. How much of a role depends greatly on the people concerned...

Therapy Shorts 92: Should You Bother Trying To Set Boundaries With A Narcissist?

I talk a lot about boundaries. I believe they are the foundation of a healthy relationship. Setting boundaries means being emotionally honest, assertive and it means protecting your emotional

From the Archives: Codependents: It’s Ok Not To Forgive Your Toxic Parents

The headline is perhaps a confusing one to anyone who has experienced trauma and abuse in their life. The helping professions are full of practitioners who deal in the art of forgiveness...

Therapy Shorts 89: Discipline And Responsibility Are The Keys To Happiness

About two years ago, I wrote a rather philosophical post pontificating about What Do We Need to Make us Happy? As I generally do, I placed this article on various websites for people to read and comment...

Therapy Shorts 82: Want A New Start? Clear Out The Dead Wood First

Change is never easy but we face it every day. For some it is a terrifying experience, for others an opportunity. We all, see it, feel it and deal with in in different ways. How we see it, feel it and deal with it will generally determine how difficult it will be...

Recovering from Narcissist Abuse? Recovery is in Your Hands.

There is an old saying that goes “something becomes more attractive if it is unavailable”. This is often the foundation for codependent thinking as they try to connect with their narcissist partner and mirrors the dysfunctional relationship had with caregivers.

Is Your Partner’s Porn Addiction Affecting Your Relationship?

Men consume pornography for a variety of reasons, including biological, psychological, and societal effects. A strong sex drive, fuelled by testosterone, can result in frequent sexual thoughts and cravings, making pornography an appealing outlet.

The Neuroscience Behind Attachment: Healing from Codependency

I read a lot of self-help books and they are mostly all the same. Change your thinking and change your life. However, there is one book that I have returned to many times. It is not technically in the self-help genre, more technical, but it holds information essential to understanding how we see relationships.

Exploring Therapy: Talk vs. Action

In the end, therapy is not just about understanding the past but about creating meaningful change in the present moment. While awareness is a crucial first step, it must be followed by action otherwise, we risk remaining stuck in old patterns.