The headline is perhaps a confusing one to anyone who has experienced trauma and abuse in their life. The helping professions are full of practitioners who deal in the art of forgiveness...
So frequently, when we enter a new relationship, we view it as a blank sheet and tell ourselves, I'm going to do it my way. However, as youngsters, we absorb information like sponges — we can't help but take in how our parents behaved and what happened in our own family.
Our children and the way they grow up is usually precious to us and mostly as parents, we try to do the right thing...
In the latest group therapy session, we investigated the Inner Child through meditation and visualisation. This is not a new exercise but it went a little deeper than normal and went on a little longer...
In therapy, and especially with codependents, much time is spent trying to discover things. This includes why we act like we do, think like we do and we fall in love with the people we do...
Chronic or toxic shame is something that we all have to deal with but do our best to hide. It is the part of us that we want to keep dark. Bringing it into the light means looking at the very core of who we really think we are. I say "think we are" because it is not really what we are...
What is it to be a good father? Much emphasis is placed on the bond a child has with its mother and the role of the father is often pushed into the background. Important as it is that the interpersonal bond with the mother is established...
Codependents gain a lot of strength from what they do for others. In fact, it is an essential process for them if they are to feel good about themselves. It is a never-ending quest for connection that unless unchecked, will lead to disappointment, rejection...
Shame is an emotion that affects everything we do and identifying and dealing with it is very difficult at times, even if we recognize our issues as shame based. Most people will attempt to hide their shame with secondary emotions like anger or sadness...
There are many good people in this world trying to parent their children the best they possibly can. The trouble is, their best is generally not enough and the consequences are felt by the child as it develops...
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