The Formation Of An Inner Critic
Life sometimes tells us that we are not deserving. We go through long periods of believing that there is something inherently wrong with us. One of the major factors in this process...
Dealing With Shame Means Naming, Facing And Repairing
Shame is the deepest of all emotions and has the ability to overwhelm those who acquire it. When we feel shame, we tend to feel alone...
Finding Your Adult Self Can Be Difficult
If we are honest with ourselves, we spend a lot of time in ‘child’ mode, re-enacting aspects of our development. Whether it’s in conflict with another or when we are ruminating or listening to our own self-talk, our younger selves often come through, consolidating our early beliefs...
How Developmental Trauma Forms And The Impact It Has On A Child
Many of the issues we have in adulthood have a firm base in developmental trauma and how we develop as children has a huge bearing on how we see the world as adults...
Codependency: A Case Of Repetition Compulsion?
Codependents often exhibit a certain behavior in adult relationships, often moving from one to the next in a "copy and paste" scenario...
Narcissist Abuse Syndrome: Elements of Stockholm Syndrome and PTSD
I once had a client who was involved with the most abusive, self-absorbed, self-centred, controlling man you could ever imagine. He abused her physically, emotionally, financially and verbally...
What Is Counter-dependency?
Many of my recent posts have delved into some of the root causes of codependency and how developmental trauma plays a major role. This puts parenting (or the lack of…
Codependents Need To Learn To Feel
Developmental trauma is the root cause of codependency. By trauma, I mean that a codependent in childhood sought but never attained connection with a caregiver...
Beware The Narcissist Grandparent
Some years ago, I wrote about the concept of the golden child in a family. Succinctly put, this is a child who is asked to maintain the self esteem of a narcissist parent...
Parental Alienation: The Issues Are Not Gender Specific
As stated in my last post, there was a huge reaction last week to a post I wrote some time ago. It was actually the second time it had gained so much attention in the year since it was first published...
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