We have so far got through the 7 Day Challenge Day 1, Day 2 and Day 3 where we have checked, challenged and visualised. If you have been following the challenge, you may well have a preferred scenario that you will want to aim for...
When we allow our thinking patterns to "protect" us , we often feel there is no escape, no matter how hard we try. These thinking traps are exactly that, thinking and behaviour that are ingrained and seemingly impossible to shift...
What is it to be a good father? Much emphasis is placed on the bond a child has with its mother and the role of the father is often pushed into the background. Important as it is that the interpersonal bond with the mother is established...
Codependents gain a lot of strength from what they do for others. In fact, it is an essential process for them if they are to feel good about themselves. It is a never-ending quest for connection that unless unchecked, will lead to disappointment, rejection...
Shame is an emotion that affects everything we do and identifying and dealing with it is very difficult at times, even if we recognize our issues as shame based. Most people will attempt to hide their shame with secondary emotions like anger or sadness...
There are many good people in this world trying to parent their children the best they possibly can. The trouble is, their best is generally not enough and the consequences are felt by the child as it develops...
There are times in our lives when big decisions have to be made and the consequences faced, however grim they may be. How many of us can actually say we enjoy this process? Not many, I guess...
Nothing is perfect and that goes for relationships too. Even in the best of intimate relationships...
Shame is the driver of many of the issues we face in our lives. Even experienced therapists do not always see the impact that shame based thinking can have on the Self...
Many codependents that I deal with have real issues with shame that was acquired in childhood. Initially, this starts with adaptive protection measures...
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