Why Do Narcissists and Codependents So Often Find Each Other?
Why do narcissists and codependents often form relationships? Explore how these patterns complement each other and how awareness can lead to change.
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Therapy Shorts 108: We Don’t Miss the Person. We Miss the Feeling They Created.
Why is it so difficult to let go of unhealthy relationships? This article explores how childhood attachment, the nervous system and emotional familiarity influence adult attraction. Discover why you may miss the feeling more than the person, and how understanding these patterns can support healthier, more secure relationships.
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The Part of You That Cannot Leave: An IFS View of Codependent Relationships
Why do people remain in relationships that repeatedly hurt them? This article uses an IFS perspective to explore the protective parts behind codependent attachment, including fear, guilt, hope and responsibility. It explains why leaving can feel dangerous and how compassionate self-leadership can eventually support clearer, healthier and more authentic choices.
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Different Partners, Same Problems: Why Relationship Patterns Repeat
Why do we keep repeating the same relationship patterns despite choosing different partners? This article explores how childhood experiences, emotional familiarity, and unconscious expectations shape our attractions and choices. Discover why familiar relationships often feel right, how patterns develop, and what it takes to create healthier, lasting connections.
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Therapy Shorts 90: Not Every Difficult Ex Is a Narcissist. Sometimes You Were Just Addicted to Chaos
This article challenges the habit of labelling every difficult ex as a narcissist and explores whether the deeper issue may be an attachment to chaos. It examines codependency, emotional intensity, nervous system familiarity, and the tendency to mistake instability for connection, chemistry, or meaningful love in adult relationships.
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The Codependent Fantasy: If I Love Them Properly, They Will Change
This article explores the codependent fantasy that enough love, patience, and understanding will change another person. It examines how hope, self-abandonment, and early relational conditioning keep people attached to harmful relationships, and why recovery begins with seeing reality clearly rather than trying to rescue someone who will not change.
Therapy Shorts 84: Why You Keep Falling For The Wrong People
Why are codependents drawn to emotionally unavailable and inconsistent partners? This article explores how childhood conditioning, low self-worth and nervous system activation shape attraction, causing healthy love to feel unfamiliar. Learn why codependents mistake drama for connection and how recovery begins by judging behaviour, not chemistry.
Love Does Not Conquer All: Expectations In Relationships Under The Spotlight
Just how prepared are we for the considerable work needed in order to maintain a relationship? Many of us say that we know fully what lies ahead when we commit ourselves but I wonder just how true this really is...
7 Reasons Why Your Relationship Is Not Working
Nothing is perfect and that goes for relationships too. Even in the best of intimate relationships...
Parental Alienation: What It Is And How Narcissists Use It To Destroy Their Ex-Partner and Children
When divorce and separation happen and children are involved, it is generally traumatic for all concerned...
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