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Connect With Yourself By Talking With Your Internal Family: A Real-life Depiction

I truly believe that the way we think about ourselves and the world we live in greatly determines the way we behave and act. We get that conditioning in childhood, good or not so good, and it is added to by gained experience over a period of time...

How To Assess Your Relationship For The R Factor. The Silent Killer Of Relationships

It is sometimes hard to imagine how some couples stay together and what keeps them that way. For many people, especially codependents, the need to be in a relationship is always there but just how much should you take from your partner in terms of the way they conduct themselves...

Introducing The All New Free From Codependency Online Therapy Hub

When you are trying to deal with codependency, it is essential to work with a therapist who understands what it is, how to deal with it and has overcome his/her own codependency issues...

Dealing With Shame Means Bringing It Into The Open

We all carry shame from our childhood and it's not the easiest thing to face. As we acquire it early in our life through interaction with parents and the environment around us...

How We React To Shame And Why We Keep It Hidden

Many codependents that I deal with have real issues with shame that was acquired in childhood. Initially, this starts with adaptive protection measures...

Nurture Your Inner Critic

There are a range of books that tell us how to deal with our family of inner critics. Most centre on mantras and progressively aggressive language to deal with them...

What Is The Inner Child?

I do a lot of inner child work with very interesting results. Touching the part of our emotional memory that has been locked away for years, can be a powerful, enlightening experience...

Finding Your Adult Self Can Be Difficult

If we are honest with ourselves, we spend a lot of time in ‘child’ mode, re-enacting aspects of our development. Whether it’s in conflict with another or when we are ruminating or listening to our own self-talk, our younger selves often come through, consolidating our early beliefs...

Re-parenting your Inner Child

We have seen clearly in my previous set of posts how an inner critic is formed from the defence mechanisms used by the wounded, criticised child and how these can be taken forward into adulthood...

How Developmental Trauma Forms And The Impact It Has On A Child

Many of the issues we have in adulthood have a firm base in developmental trauma and how we develop as children has a huge bearing on how we see the world as adults...