Test Your Assumptions: Guess What? They Might Be Wrong!
We all do it. Something happens, we find ourselves in a situation where an assumption jumps up. An argument, meeting someone new, problem at work or in the home…I could…
Category: COGNITIVE BEHAVIORAL THERAPY
The Way We See The Problem, Often Is The Problem
I always remember the quote ” Life is about the choices you make. If you want a better life, make different choices”. This very true quote is often lost on people…
What We Tell Ourselves (And Listen To) Is Crucial
Yesterday, I was reminded by am email sent from a regular reader of my blog about the power of language and the use of certain words when reporting on the…
A Sense Of Humour Helps In Enforced Isolation
I come from a country where the ‘stiff upper lip’ and ‘wartime spirit’ are very much part of the national psyche. Along with this, a sense of humour is usually…
Relationship Success Can Be Gauged By Looking At Attachment Styles
Anyone who has been in a long term relationship will testify to how it changes over time. There is the initial “falling in love” phase described earlier where there is…
Codependency: Setting Healthy Boundaries
I deal with many co-dependent people on a daily basis and one factor that is extremely common is the inability to set healthy boundaries. Codependent people experience emotional abuse in…
Codependency: Self-Care Is Essential And It Starts With You
Many codependents that I see in my practice have very little idea of the concept of self-care. This might be because they are generally dealing with the care of others…
Emotional Incest Or Invasive Parenting…Call It What You Will, It Is A Terrible Form Of Child Abuse
Can you imagine what it is like for a child who is trying to work out how the world works, being dragged into the adult world before they are ready?…