I have a number of clients from the US and what has been playing out there over the last few weeks and indeed, for some, over the last four years has been difficult for them. At the moment, the big contentious issue is political…
We are all hurting, probably more than most people can remember. 2020 has been for many people “annus horribilis“. Pandemics, elections, lockdowns and the general feeling of insecurity…
Can you imagine a therapist telling a patient to think negatively ? To concentrate on the less positive aspects of the issues they are having ?…
Many codependents that I deal with have real issues with shame that was acquired in childhood. Initially, this starts with adaptive protection measures…
There are a range of books that tell us how to deal with our family of inner critics. Most centre on mantras and progressively aggressive language to deal with them…
Shame is the deepest of all emotions and has the ability to overwhelm those who acquire it. When we feel shame, we tend to feel alone…
Read any serious newspaper and you will hear stories of how the pandemic is affecting lives to the extent that you could believe quite rightly that life will never be the same again. People are losing their lives, their livelihoods, their businesses, their finances and their sense of purpose…
We spend much of our time in our heads, thinking about the past or worrying about the future. We interact with others and feel triggered and we are often tied to past events and relationships in our mind…
Many codependent people find it difficult to be alone. They live in the constant fantasy that they need to be with someone (anyone) to feel ok about themselves. It is in this fantasy that they can best play out their codependent symptoms of trying to fix others…
There are many things that determine our lives for better or worse. Parents play a huge role of course, our environment, influences, relationships and peers also play a part…
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