Inner Child Therapy: How We Become What We Are
Consider the following situation. Paula, as a five year old, enjoyed being outside with her friends, male and female, playing with a ball, riding her bike and generally enjoying the…
Consider the following situation. Paula, as a five year old, enjoyed being outside with her friends, male and female, playing with a ball, riding her bike and generally enjoying the…
Inside all of us is an underdeveloped part referred to as the inner child. It can manifest in various forms. It can be the happy, carefree child who was left…
It's called self-talk, emotional traffic, inner conflict, internal family. Call it what you will, it can have a marked effect on the way we see the world. These ancient childhood…
The Coronavirus is here and it's becoming increasingly scary. From 12pm today, I along with the rest of the population in the country I live in, will only be allowed…
Narcissists avoid shame at all costs. It is their nemesis or "kryptonite", if you want to see it that way. It's not clear where the roots of narcissism start but…
Developmental trauma is the root cause of codependency. By trauma, I mean that a codependent in childhood sought but never attained connection with a caregiver. Instead, they were maybe caregivers…
At the moment, I am reading the excellent book by Irvin Yalom, Staring At The Sun. I am a great fan of the author generally and his ideas on the…
Very often codependents attract a certain type. Used to giving and sacrificing, they naturally tend towards partners who like to take and receive anything that is on offer...
Codependents generally have an unhealthy focus on the external. In many cases, this focus is on a specific person (usually emotionally unavailable) but it can also be on work, to…
There are all types of parents and all types of parenting styles. Parents normally parent how they were parented themselves, good or bad. Where else would they get the knowledge…