What is the point of therapy unless there is a goal for change? And who should drive that change in therapy? As therapists, are we hoping that endless navel-gazing and a non-directive approach will bring client awareness as a matter of course?
The boundaries in therapy should be established and maintained by the therapist and not the client. Many people come into therapy without knowledge of boundaries or how to set them and are probably used to having what few they have violated.
We cannot go on reliving the trauma of our childhood in our adult world. Nobody needs rescuing generally and it is wrong to feel you need rescuing by others. It is all about awareness and responsibility...seeking awareness and taking responsibility. I see the next hike coming!
Listen to the new podcast around Dr. Nicholas Jenner’s book “Our Quest For Happily Ever After & why it sometimes doesn't work’. We discuss a section taken from the third chapter of the book called: “Taking The First Steps to Recovery (After A Breakup)”.
This is not something that has suddenly come into my conscious mind. I knew all along that what I was doing was not right but chose to ignore that. Why did I do that? Because I believed in the concept that if I could be indispensable and cover all bases, I would be secure and safe in the knowledge that no-one would leave someone who gives so much.
I have been successfully treating codependents for many years on an individual basis, changing people’s lives using effective integrative methods that I am continually developing. I realise the importance of learning tools and methods in order to enjoy a fuller life and better relationships...
The only certainty is that I know that I won’t be able to choose these things. Would it be better if I did? For some, this would be comforting, but for me personally, would bring an additional set of issues.
New Dates Starting April 9th 2022
It's that time again! I am pleased to announce the programme and schedule for Group Therapy with Dr Nicholas Jenner 2022. This year, I will be expanding the programme to cover more subjects. There will be groups for codependency, dealing with toxic shame, increasing self-esteem and mindful communication for couples.
At this time of year, I like to reflect on what people have been reading on the site. Codependency and codependent relationships were once again prominent topics. Interestingly, unlike previous years, the most popular piece was one on how two codependents interact with each other in a relationship. Take a look at the three most popular articles of 2021, which have been reposted here for you to read again...