We often neglect the greatest relationship we can ever have, with ourselves.
I have my own experience of meeting the Queen twice without really meeting her at all. I lived for a while near Sandringham in Norfolk, UK in the eighties. For those of you who don’t know, there is a Royal palace and horse stud in this area.
The Path To Freedom continues. Listen as I document how I controlled my passive agressive tendencies, the anger behind it and how it nearly wrecked my marriage. https://youtu.be/csekOGYXiuY
What is the point of therapy unless there is a goal for change? And who should drive that change in therapy? As therapists, are we hoping that endless navel-gazing and a non-directive approach will bring client awareness as a matter of course?
The boundaries in therapy should be established and maintained by the therapist and not the client. Many people come into therapy without knowledge of boundaries or how to set them and are probably used to having what few they have violated.
We cannot go on reliving the trauma of our childhood in our adult world. Nobody needs rescuing generally and it is wrong to feel you need rescuing by others. It is all about awareness and responsibility...seeking awareness and taking responsibility. I see the next hike coming!
Listen to the new podcast around Dr. Nicholas Jenner’s book “Our Quest For Happily Ever After & why it sometimes doesn't work’. We discuss a section taken from the third chapter of the book called: “Taking The First Steps to Recovery (After A Breakup)”.
This is not something that has suddenly come into my conscious mind. I knew all along that what I was doing was not right but chose to ignore that. Why did I do that? Because I believed in the concept that if I could be indispensable and cover all bases, I would be secure and safe in the knowledge that no-one would leave someone who gives so much.
I have been successfully treating codependents for many years on an individual basis, changing people’s lives using effective integrative methods that I am continually developing. I realise the importance of learning tools and methods in order to enjoy a fuller life and better relationships...
The only certainty is that I know that I won’t be able to choose these things. Would it be better if I did? For some, this would be comforting, but for me personally, would bring an additional set of issues.