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Therapy Shorts 60: After a Bad Breakup: Practical Steps That Actually Help

Navigate the emotional turmoil of breakups with effective strategies. Learn to stabilize, process, and rebuild your life after a breakup.

When Love Turns Into Panic: The Three Projects That Quietly Ruin Relationships.

Explore the complexities of relationships entering 2026, covering love, compatibility, and the importance of personal identity.

Stop Investigating, Start Understanding: The Psychology Behind Past Obsession

The extent to which our history influences a relationship will depend on the two people concerned and the emotional distance they have travelled beforehand. For some people, the past is simply context, something to understand but not obsess over.

Therapy Shorts 48: If Nothing Changes, Nothing Changes

Welcome to Therapy Shorts: small moments of reflection to help you steady yourself in a world that never stops moving. I’m Dr Nicholas Jenner, and in each of these brief episodes, we’ll take a simple idea and look at how it actually plays out in real life… in your relationships, your choices, and the way you speak to yourself.

What Might Have Been: The Most Painful Love Story of All

Fear sabotages and it goes about it’s business in a quiet way. It doesn’t scream in our ears, it whispers quiet logic at us. It tells us to wait, to think about it, to be “realistic”. It parades itself as “wisdom”, but more often, it is self-protection.

When Parents Choose LAT: What Do Children Learn?

While adults may find this arrangement appealing, the picture becomes significantly less clear when children are involved. Adults can rationalize their decisions, justify them as practical, and even find them liberating, but children interpret relationship patterns very differently.

Why Women Push for Couples Therapy More than Men

So why is it that women appear to be the ones often driving couples therapy and are very often left disappointed by their partners’ reluctance? The answer lies in a mix of cultural conditioning, emotional expectations and the different ways men and women are socialized to approach relationships.

Understanding Men’s Reluctance to do Couples Therapy (Unless they are a Narcissist)

Men are generally conditioned to see themselves as providers and problem solvers, with a concentration on being that and sometimes only that. Showing feelings and being vulnerable can shatter that image for men and the way they believe their partners see them.

How to Avoid Attracting What’s Missing in You

Those of us who battle with self-assurance may find ourselves drawn to someone who is aggressive. Someone who is disciplined may give us solace in the event that we are lacking structure. In the beginning, these characteristics might make us feel excited and complementary. It seems as if the other person "completes" us. This usually happens in the honeymoon period.

Are We Incompatible? Can You Really Love Someone So Different To You?

We are all individuals, formed from different experiences and we often judge our compatibility on how we see our new partner in the early stages of a relationship. In this phase, our incompatibility is hidden by our need to connect and is driven chiefly by hormones (sometimes repetition compulsion)and brain chemical, not common sense.