We can often remember the feelings around significant events that have shaped our thinking more than the events themselves. These feelings leave an imprint on us that we take forward into our adulthood and subsequent relationships.
Anyone who has codependent traits need to test their motives continually as to why they are doing what they do. Many don’t and continue to live with the idea that they are being slighted and victimized.
It may seem a tall order with all that avoidance going on but try it, it cant be worse than the alternative.
Sometimes, I am asked by corporate clients to help new managers with the challenges of their new job. Usually, just the basic management tasks can be overwhelming without the added problem of dealing with people and especially ‘difficult’ people...
When used in relationships, the term “manipulation” describes activities undertaken by an individual to try to exert influence over others, frequently in a damaging or deceitful manner.
In my daily work with codependents, I hear a lot about so-called "red-flags". Usually this comes when clients are describing the early stages of a relationship they were or are in...
Parenting is crucial in a child's development and while it is not the only factor in the acquisition of anxiety and depression, good parenting can make a big difference.
Simply put, directly confronting a partner often leads to greater resistance, more conflict and resentment. Of course, it is easier to get angry and make accusations, but doing so rarely leads to positive, long term outcomes.
Being conscious of what you feel, the emotions you are feeling and what is best for you in that moment will always point you in the right direction.
Codependency is not about others it is about YOU, yes you, taking responsibility for aspects of your behavior that leave you exposed to being taken advantage of.
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