How To Spot The Manipulator In Your Life (And How To Keep Them Out)

What do you do if you are being subjected to some or all of the dysfunction described in this article? Find the courage to leave as soon as possible and close the door tightly. Manipulators (who could also be undiagnosed sociopaths or narcissists) will likely never change and you will continue to enable their behaviour by accepting what they dish out. The price to pay will be your self-esteem, your identity and you will learn that your needs are not important.

People who are easily manipulated tend to have abandonment issues and feel the need to make the relationship work under all circumstances. The manipulator often senses this and uses it for advantage. This is consolidated in the language they use towards their victim and various tactics employed to destroy the self-worth of the person concerned. Psychologists say the root cause of manipulative behavior can often be toxic cycles of violence, narcissism or unhealthy relationships in the manipulator’s own childhood. Manipulation can happen in any relational context, including family, friends, professional, romantic, or sexual relationships.

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Dr. Nicholas Jenner

Dr. Nicholas Jenner is a counseling psychotherapist in online private practice working with individuals, couples and groups, dealing with codependency issues, severe depression, bipolar, personality disorders, anxiety, PTSD, eating disorders and other mental health issues. He has been practicing online for many years and recognized early that online therapy was a convenient method for people to meet their therapist. Working outside the box, he goes that extra mile to make sure clients have access to help between sessions, something that is greatly appreciated. He also gives part of his spare time up to mentor psychology students in a university setting.

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  1. Russell Edwards

    Thanks Dr Jenner. Another brilliant article.