Many years ago, I read a book about Native American traditions. At that time, there was a mental health crisis known to be happening among the people of the reservations and doctors were trying to solve it...
What does it mean to be codependent? Unless you are codependent, you really cannot imagine what it is like. It is a connection problem that links us to our primary caregivers and the way we connected (or more likely, didn‘t connect) with them...
Continuing our popular stories on real codependents, today we meet A who has been involved with an alcoholic for two years. R, her partner, has been in recovery for a year but the relationship is rocky as he goes through the steps needed to be sober and become...
Many codependents I work with talk about the type of person they are usually drawn to. I use the word drawn, rather than attracted, because I believe that it is often an impulse rather than a definite choice...
I am currently reading The Examined Life by Stephen Grosz. It is a captivating book that looks at the interactions between a psychoanalyst and his patients...
Developmental trauma is the root cause of codependency. By trauma, I mean that a codependent in childhood sought but never attained connection with a caregiver...
Codependents generally have an unhealthy focus on the external. In many cases, this focus is on a specific person (usually emotionally unavailable) but it can also be on work, to take an example...
Codependents love to give. It is what they do, continually. As I have mentioned in previous posts, this giving comes with an element of return…
It is wrong to assume that if codependency is identified as an issue, the person concerned is codependent with everyone in his or her life...
Among my patient group (and circle of friends), there are people who continually allow others to take advantage of them, continue to give and stay in very toxic relationships...
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