Watch Those Codependent Urges And Take It Slow

Codependency is not about others it is about YOU, yes you, taking responsibility for aspects of your behavior that leave you exposed to being taken advantage of.

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Who Are You? It’s Mostly Who You Think You Should Be!

Your genuine self is who you truly are as a person, independent of your employment or the influence of others; it is an accurate reflection of who you are.

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Views On Infidelity In Perspective

Just recently, infidelity in marriages has been a big topic with some of my clients. It has happened and they are struggling with the aftermath of it. Some have separated, some have separated to try to see if there can be a basis for renewal of the relationship...

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Codependency: You CAN Think Your Way Out Of A Situation You Behaved Your Way Into

The first session of the new round of Group Therapy For Codependency was held last Saturday. The objective in the first session was to discuss how childhood and the lack of connection with caregivers had fostered a codependent attitude in adulthood. We heard stories of abuse and neglect but mostly about how parents appeared to be so busy with themselves in some way, the children were invisible...

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Couples Therapy: A Codependency Case Study

Therapy as a couple is hard and there are few guarantees. Many factors determine success or failure. Timing, willingness, the right therapist all come into play...

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Why You Can’t Let Go Of That Narcissist

I have lost count of the amount of times I have been asked by desperate clients why they cannot let go of an abuser and a narcissist. It seems that they have been injected by some form of drug that has formed an addiction and no amount of logic, common sense or realism will help them...

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You Are Not Flawed Because Your Parents Let You Down. Codependency In Context

As someone who deals regularly with the concept of codependency, it means I have to deal with the concepts of child development too. Let’s face it, the way we grow up, where and who with, are all major factors...

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Children Are Often The Collateral In Separation

Divorce is an ugly business. Anyone who has been through it will testify to the emotional turmoil associated with it. Even the one who instigated the proceedings can be very badly affected by the process...

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Divorcing An Egomaniac Follows A Familiar Pattern

I am unfortunately dealing with a few messy divorce cases at present. I say unfortunately because it is never positive when a marriage breaks down...

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What Are You Prepared To Do For Your Relationship?

Let’s be honest, when it comes to relationships, we often try it and we often get it wrong and most of us have no idea why. We think we do but we are generally clueless...

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