Conflict Management Is A Foundation of Love

It is my own personal experience, and that of clients, that whoever you choose to have a relationship with, there will be conflict and a lot of it. The paradox to our usual thinking is that the more intense and close a relationship is...

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Relationships: Lessons from Lockdown 1

What a year 2020 has been. There have been many things happening on a global, national and individual level. With the US election now over and the world holding its breath over other global events again...

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Nurture Your Inner Critic

There are a range of books that tell us how to deal with our family of inner critics. Most centre on mantras and progressively aggressive language to deal with them...

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Re-parenting your Inner Child

We have seen clearly in my previous set of posts how an inner critic is formed from the defence mechanisms used by the wounded, criticised child and how these can be taken forward into adulthood...

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Anxiety: The Facts

Many of the clients I deal with in my online therapy practice suffer from anxiety. Anxiety is the disorder of our modern times and the amount of people suffering from it is increasing every year...

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Codependency: Give It Time Before A New Relationship

Many codependent people find it difficult to be alone. They live in the constant fantasy that they need to be with someone (anyone) to feel ok about themselves. It is in this fantasy that they can best play out their codependent symptoms of trying to fix others...

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After Covid, Therapists Will Be Badly Needed

A few months ago, I wrote a series of articles describing life under Covid lockdown. We had two months of restrictions and lifeel was suddenly different. It started out as a bit of a novelty and the funny side could be seen on occasions buf it quickly became more serious as time went on...

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