Codependency often looks like kindness, but underneath it lies quiet, anxious control. In this piece, I explore how fear drives fixing, rescuing, and over-functioning and why reclaiming individuality is the true path to healing. If you’ve ever lost yourself in relationships, this will resonate deeply.
People-pleasing isn’t a personality trait. It’s a survival strategy. It’s something you learned early, in environments where being agreeable wasn’t optional , it was necessary.
Many people in therapy don’t always like it or agree when their therapist tells them (If they don’t, they should) that real self-love looks a lot like self-accountability. It’s not glamorous at all, it’s not Instagram worthy. It can be deeply unsettling and sometimes lonely. The “glamour” is just a way to avoid the pain of the work needed.
Discover "Therapy Shorts," a collection of quick insights and gentle nudges to help you along your healing journey. This week is about Break-Ups. These posts, published twice per week with a short audio, provide bite-sized wisdom to help you grow and discover yourself. Join me as we investigate the small ways we can bring peace, clarity, and connection into our lives.
I am writing this post while on holiday and trying to keep away from my business to-do’s. So far, it has been successful I have combined hiking with trips with my wife...
The term codependency has gone through various changes in meaning over the years. Originally, it was only used to describe anyone who stayed in a relationship with a substance user and enabled that behaviour...
For a child who grows up in a dysfunctional environment where shame and possible abandonment issues are present, the feelings that are associated with this are worse than death...
I have been watching a rather intriguing series at present entitled "Surviving Death", an examination of the afterlife in all its forms. The series covers a wide range of topics from near death experiences, mediumship, ghosts through to reincarnation...
(The audio version of this post is available) It would have been very easy to write another post about the pandemic, still the most troubling aspect of our lives at present. While, with some luck, we might be rid of it sometime in 2021...
Shame is an emotion that affects everything we do and identifying and dealing with it is very difficult at times, even if we recognize our issues as shame based. Most people will attempt to hide their shame with secondary emotions like anger or sadness...
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