DR Nicholas Jenner Archives

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Therapy Shorts 93: What a Healthy Relationship Looks Like: Spoiler: It’s Boring!

Healthy love is rarely dramatic. This article explores why emotionally healthy relationships can initially feel unfamiliar to people shaped by codependency, anxious attachment, or conditional love. It examines the difference between emotional intensity and genuine intimacy, and why calm, consistent relationships often feel uncomfortable before they begin to feel safe.

Therapy Shorts 91: After A Narcissist… What Next?

So, you have done the hard part. The narcissist is thankfully gone. It matters little whether discard happened or the courage was finally found to get rid of them, the…

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Therapy Shorts 90: Not Every Difficult Ex Is a Narcissist. Sometimes You Were Just Addicted to Chaos

This article challenges the habit of labelling every difficult ex as a narcissist and explores whether the deeper issue may be an attachment to chaos. It examines codependency, emotional intensity, nervous system familiarity, and the tendency to mistake instability for connection, chemistry, or meaningful love in adult relationships.

New Podcast: The Manosphere, Porn, and Consent: How Attitudes Become Relationship Damage

In this episode I connect the wider culture to the private realities couples live with: how learned attitudes shape sexual scripts, and how those scripts can turn pornography into either an escape (often in codependency) or a sign of entitlement (often where narcissistic traits are present).

Therapy Shorts 55: How to Heal Attachment Wounds: A Roadmap to Recovery

Learn practical tools to heal attachment wounds using somatic work, reparenting, parts work, self-compassion, and secure relationship skills.

Therapy Shorts 54: Your Childhood Is Still Running Your Life (You Just Don’t See It)

Discover how childhood experiences shape adult relationships, emotional regulation, attachment patterns, trust, and conflict styles — and how awareness creates change.

In-Depth Guide: Why You Love the Way You Do — The Psychology of Attachment

Understanding how childhood shapes adult relationships is key to healing attachment wounds, breaking unhealthy patterns, and building secure, fulfilling connections.

Listen to my Interview on UK Health Radio

I recently had the privilege of joining UK Health Radio with psychotherapist Belynder Walia to discuss codependency, relationship patterns, and family dynamics. We explored how our early attachment experiences shape adult relationships — and what real recovery requires. Click the headphone icon to listen.

Therapy Shorts 53: Healing Requires Loneliness

Healing requires stepping into the loneliness we fear. Staying in familiar patterns only deepens suffering. This Therapy Short explores why silence becomes the space where identity, clarity, and self-trust return — and why choosing yourself, even when it hurts, is the beginning of real recovery.

Therapy Shorts 52: Codependency Is All About Control And It Took Me Years to Come Out of Denial

Codependency often looks like kindness, but underneath it lies quiet, anxious control. In this piece, I explore how fear drives fixing, rescuing, and over-functioning and why reclaiming individuality is the true path to healing. If you’ve ever lost yourself in relationships, this will resonate deeply.