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The Way We See The Problem, Often Is The Problem

I always remember the quote " Life is about the choices you make. If you want a better life, make different choices"...

Think Team Relationship in Conflict

Anyone who tells you that conflict does not happen in their relationship probably lives alone! Conflict is an inevitable consequence of two human beings coming together to attempt to form a relationship...

Writing Your Life Story Can Help Bring Perspective

When we look at our lives within a process of change, we tend to open up a lot of boxes, some of which have been closed tightly for many years...

Codependency: Self-Care Is Essential And It Starts With You

Many codependents that I see in my practice have very little idea of the concept of self-care...

Clue Up On SAD: It Affects More People Than You Might Think

As I woke up this morning, I realised that something was different. I'm not talking here about the ageing process here but the sudden change in the weather...

Punishment is not Discipline (Part 2) Considerations

When my daughter who is now 30 started crawling, we attended as a couple some parenting classes. This was supplemented by visits from the seminar leader to consolidate the theory in practice...

Staying With Your Partner After Infidelity?

Once infidelity occurs in a relationship, it breaks the foundation of trust that might have been the one of the main reasons the relationship maintained itself...

Take Your Internal Family To A Safe Place

In my last post, I talked about the value of meeting a "younger self" in visualisation. I said and believe that this is an emotional but worthwhile step in trying to come to terms with childhood trauma...

Meeting Your Younger Self Tells You All You Need To Know

While doing inner child work with clients, I often run them through a guided visualisation where they meet and greet a younger version of themselves...

Soothing Our “Child Part” Will Keep The Narcissist At Bay

I have worked with codependents for many years and have witnessed first-hand the devastation that occurs when a cruel, self-centred individual breezes in and out of their life...