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Online Therapy for Codependency: A Testimonial

Ever since I started doing therapy online in 2011, I have dealt with many different disorders. Early on, it was a transitional phase moving from office to online but it quickly moved on...

Making Sure Depression Does Not Define You

I once read a very interesting description of depression. It went something like: "I am depression. I am cold like the Arctic mist, I dampen your spirits and your soul. I fill your mind with gloom...

The Drama Triangle: A Key Element Of Codependent Control

have often documented here how much control exists in codependent thinking. In contrast to their nemesis (someone with narcissist tendencies), codependents are generally nice people who are willing...

Increase Your Self-Esteem in 10 Days. Day 5: Reframing your childhood

Day 5 is asking you to look to look at the negatives global labels you have believed since childhood. This is where your inner critical voices are at their strongest...

Increase Your Self-Esteem In 10 Days. Day 2: Your Psychological Self-Portrait

Many of us carry a distorted view of what we are. Quite simply, this could have come from one or two bad memories that outweigh many more good ones, leaving us unable to recognise our strengths...

Confirmatory Bias: The Killer Of Self-Esteem

It always amazes me how talented and intelligent people spend a lot of their time trying to convince themselves that they are the opposite...

Codependency: Why Red Flags Give Us All The Information We Need

In my daily work with codependents, I hear a lot about so-called "red-flags". Usually this comes when clients are describing the early stages of a relationship they were or are in...

Parental Alienation: A Call For Action

In an ideal world, there would be no divorce or separation and children would grow up in healthy, happy homes with two loving parents who loved each other and them...

We Just Don’t Take The Time Anymore

We live in a world where time is at a premium. We never have enough of it and we are always trying to save it, stick to it and deal with the consequences...

Codependents: It’s Ok Not To Forgive Your Toxic Parents

The headline is perhaps a confusing one to anyone who has experienced trauma and abuse in their life. The helping professions are full of practitioners who deal in the art of forgiveness...