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Therapy Shorts 97: Why You Obsess About Your Partner’s Past.

We all have a past. When two people come together and try to form a relationship, the experiences gained by both play a role. How much of a role depends greatly on the people concerned...

Therapy Shorts 89: Discipline And Responsibility Are The Keys To Happiness

About two years ago, I wrote a rather philosophical post pontificating about What Do We Need to Make us Happy? As I generally do, I placed this article on various websites for people to read and comment...

Therapy Shorts 82: Want A New Start? Clear Out The Dead Wood First

Change is never easy but we face it every day. For some it is a terrifying experience, for others an opportunity. We all, see it, feel it and deal with in in different ways. How we see it, feel it and deal with it will generally determine how difficult it will be...

Understanding Life Chapters and Transitions

I like to look at life in terms of life chapters and life transitions. Life chapters are phases in our life where things are stable, we are settled and things are running fine. There is no need for change and the thoughts around changing those circumstances are minimal.

Therapy Shorts 9 : Fulfilment in Later Life: Insights From Strength to Strength by Arthur C Brooks

Discover "Therapy Shorts," a collection of quick insights and gentle nudges to help you along your healing journey. This week is about Coping with Aging. These posts, published twice per week with a short audio, provide bite-sized wisdom to help you grow and discover yourself. Join me as we investigate the small ways we can bring peace, clarity, and connection into our lives.

Nostalgia And Connecting With My Inner Self

I have recently been very nostalgic about the Seventies. Not with any great fondness but it was a very significant time for me. In this decade, I went from being 8 to 18 and my near adult self was formed...

A Successful Relationship Looks Like This

While recently browsing a national UK newspaper, I came across an article concerning a comment made by Barack Obama concerning the questions you might ask yourself about a potential partner...

Protecting Women: Male Attitudes Need To Change

Here in the UK, there has been an uproar (quite rightly) concerning the kidnap, rape and murder of a young woman by a serving police officer in London. Promises of police enquiries, government inquests and pledges to make the streets safer for women generally have failed to materialize despite increased awareness...

Underestimate The Small Issues In A Relationship At Your Peril

A good marriage with someone we truly love is generally the fairytale that is sold to us by society, sometimes parents and definitely religion...

Become A Compassionate Witness To Your Past

As part of the 7 Day Challenge, I wrote about polarised thinking and how the battle for control of the various "parts" of our personality can lead us to such extremes as being stuck, procrastination, people pleasing and addiction...