In the end, therapy is not just about understanding the past but about creating meaningful change in the present moment. While awareness is a crucial first step, it must be followed by action otherwise, we risk remaining stuck in old patterns.
At its core, rethinking relationships means embracing the beauty of individuality—both our own and that of our partners. True connection doesn’t come from losing ourselves in another person but from standing confidently beside them, growing independently while sharing our journey. By fostering self-awareness, open communication, and mutual respect, we create relationships that thrive not on dependence, but on appreciation. The healthiest love is one that allows us to be fully ourselves while celebrating the uniqueness of those we choose to share our lives with.
Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing...
As an imperfect human, I have had my share of troubles in all aspects of life including relationships, business and on a personal level: I’ve made decisions and done things that have hurt other people and I haven’t always been the best partner, son, brother, friend or father.
The years roll on quicker as you get older but with that comes more wisdom and security. I always tend to look back over a year and compare it to where I was the same time, the prior year. A useful exercise that can reveal progress made (or not).
I recently sat down with Scott Jacobsen from The Good Men Project to talk about my new program for codependents: “ Self Leadership for Codependents”.
At its core, codependency forms during childhood, particularly when children are forced to “fix” their environment in order to feel safe or secure.
In this post, I share my journey of navigating and growing through codependency in my relationships. This exploration is aimed at illuminating the subtle, often unseen patterns of my codependent behavior, particularly as they appear within the Drama Triangle – a framework for understanding social interactions and conflict.
Join me in November for a new round of group therapy dedicated to codependency.
Research in psychology supports the idea that our relationships are not just about emotional connection but are also heavily influenced by the need for control and security.
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