Mindful Acceptance Leads To Self-Compassion

“The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments...

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The Lack Of Psychological Birth That Leads To Codependency

Codependency is not a disease and should not be treated like one. When managed care systems finally recognise it as a disorder, there will surely be a push to apply a medical model to recovery...

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Codependents: Letting Go And Relapsing

Codependents love to give. It is what they do, continually. As I have mentioned in previous posts, this giving comes with an element of return…

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Spanking Doesn’t Work And Drives Bad Behaviour Underground

Over the weekend, I witnessed a physical assault on a young child. You might not be surprised to know that he was with his parents at the time. I was in a store with my wife...

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Emotional Incest Or Invasive Parenting… Call It What You Will, It Is A Terrible Form Of Child Abuse

Can you imagine what it is like for a child who is trying to work out how the world works, being dragged into the adult world before they are ready...

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Why We Hate Ourselves… And Never Know Why

There is much hate in our world. It is seen everywhere, on the street, in the media and in our towns and cities. However, in my experience, some of the…

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Controlling Codependency: Keeping Others In Line

Narcissists always get a bad press and probably rightly so. (At this point, we should note that we should only use the term narcissist when someone has been officially diagnosed with NPD...

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After A Narcissist… What Next?

So, you have done the hard part. The narcissist is thankfully gone. It matters little whether discard happened or the courage was finally found to get rid of them, the…

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Having Trouble With Conflict Management And Resolution: Set Rules

Many good relationships can be tarnished by conflict. Conflict is truly inevitable when two people come together and the ability to manage it and find solutions will go a long way to predicting how long they might stay together...

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Nostalgia And Connecting With My Inner Self

I have recently been very nostalgic about the Seventies. Not with any great fondness but it was a very significant time for me...

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