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Choice Not Impulse Moves Codependents Forward

Anyone who is a regular reader of my work will know that I work with a lot of codependents who generally share a similar set of behaviour patterns with each other...

The Many Manifestations Of The Inner Critic

The concept of an inner critic is well known but most people have to deal with more than one manifestation. There might be one that attacks you for doing too much of something and another who then berates you for being lazy...

Codependency: From Co To Counter

ue to their lack of self-esteem and the inability to self-care, codependents become enmeshed with others easily. They work on the idea that all the while they are like this...

Alcoholism: How It Is Destroying Relationships And Families Everywhere

Over the years as a therapist, I have seen the rise in alcohol abuse among patients and in the environment around them. Many of them can only feel good when they can escape their problems through a drunken haze...

Relationships: Counter-dependence Or Interdependence?

In my last post, I wrote about the characteristics of counter-dependency and how this is defined by projection of a "strong" personality that hides the fear of true intimacy and commitment...

Fear Getting Close To Anyone? You Could Be Counter-dependent

The media and TV often celebrate people who are "strong". Especially in the western world, strength is indicative of the ability to get things done, have a mindset of ambition...

Combining Two Effective Therapies To Help Codependents

Codependency is a complex issue and many therapists doubt its existence. They might agree somewhat with the classic definition of codependency where an enabling partner helps an addict maintain...

Connecting With Your Inner Child… What It Means And How To Do It

Just recently, I have been doing a lot of inner child work with very interesting results. Touching the part of our emotional memory that has been locked away for years, can be a powerful, enlightening experience...

Emotional Incest: How A Narcissist Parent Uses A “Golden Child”

There are many articles around on the internet about all types of narcissism and the dangers of being in a relationship with someone who has these tendencies...

Narcissism: How Devaluing Destroys Their Codependent Victims

If you had the chance to study the way a narcissist behaves in a relationship, you might recognise a distinct pattern. A three stage whirlwind of a relationship that will leave a victim emotionally...